Changing our thinking......

We know to stop thinking is actually impossible (even when we sleep).

The way we think about a situation will determine and influence how we EXPERIENCE that situation, and, therefore influence the overall outcome.

Sometimes we have limited control over what unfolds before us, and the events or challenges we may find confronting (eg chronic condition). But, the way we THINK (respond) will lead directly to the outcome = how we feel and possibly how we may act in response to this situation/challenge. A negative response will certainly not assist our pain etc.

Although we may not be able to control the circumstance or event - we do have the power to control our thinking and thus the resulting feeling/behaviour.

It also follows that if our initial thinking is positive, then we have greater chances of a better outcome (feeling/behaviour). Better ability to cope and less aggravation to pain etc.

One possibility to help us with this is to use positive self talk - especially when we feel stressed.
If we can focus on positive self talk, then we may just remain calmer - or decrease our feelings of stress and anxiety. Positive self talk may help the way we view our health and what we may face as consequence of our condition.

This may lead to confidence, and assist us to be more optimistic, and lead us to feeling more empowered!

By the way, WE DO HAVE THE POWER TO CONTROL OUR SELF TALK - and redirect it when necessary...we just need to be consciously aware of it! When negativity strikes, make the decision to exchange those thoughts with positive and more useful and helpful thoughts.

This may take some practice and some awareness - but, it is possible ! Although, sometimes we may need to work harder at it. Sometimes the challenges are tougher.

To over rule the negativity - look for the good in ourselves...be kind and nurturing and re assuring. Look for the positives and remind oursleves how far we have come and how we are trying, but we cant be responsible for everything and everyones behaviours.....as long as we can reassure our self that we have done the best we could, at that time, with what we had - then we cant expect that we have total control over everything....Find things to be grateful for - see the blessings, take a step back, take a deep breath......then, move forwards.

As long as we are aware of when our thoughts become negative, we can remind ourselves that its in our `best interest` to remain positive...Its up to each and every one of us to do that for ourselves...It really does help.

BUT, keep in mind that its not easy...that, just sometimes there are other factors involved.....dont see this as failing - but that at least the awareness was there and thats a very good start and a positive in itself!
We are learning and growing and we will have set backs.

Awareness is the key....

Our personal wellbeing is the motivator.......